What can be done when the goal in sight constantly becomes elusive? Each step closer is only a step in the wrong direction. This can happen to the most disciplined of persons with the most valiant of efforts? This is a tug of war between your desires to achieve success. For every two steps forward you take the same two steps back and feel stagnant. How long can one endure the incessant pain that results from frustrating failure after failure? Each time finish line appears further and further away–a dimming light at the end of the tunnel. The pressure to succeed and not fail leads to: depression, sadness, and self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviors. It can ultimately result in a loss of focus and subsequently, hopes and dreams began to move in reverse. Even the strongest person can unravel. How do you get prevent this? How do you keep your mind from veering off the road? How can you not give up and find the inner strength to continue? Taking responsibility and do not pass the blame on external factors. Instead, accept the core issue that is preventing success is YOU! Not only does this happen with fitness goals but any goal that is not grounded by the following steps to stay on track.
1. What is Your Motivation?
When deciding to take on any task the first step is to decide, “Why am I doing this?” Fully committing to the goal will prevent setbacks because other important issues can and will arise. For example a major car issue could impede on the ability to get the gym. A motivated individual will find a solution for the temporary inconvenience such as:
A. Working out from home
B. Working out at the gym at work
C. Teaming up with a work out partner and carpooling
Asking “why” normally means it is time to step back and assess the progress of the plan. Reassess the importance of your goal and how committed to the goal you are. Is it worth whatever it takes and the steps necessary to ensure success? If such conviction is not present, it will become difficult to overcome the hardships, the ups and downs on the road to success. Identifying the “why” adds purpose and value to your goal and the odds of achieving it will increase tremendously.
2. Change Your Mindset
The mental approach to staying in the fast lane is a key factor. Most people spend a tremendous amount of time justifying reasons why a specific goal cannot be accomplished instead of investing time on how one can achieve the goal based on the circumstances and the cards that one is dealt. Spending more time being positive vs. negative opens up the mind to all kinds of creative thoughts, actions and innovative avenues that were not available at the onset. Now this statement is not claiming being positive = to being unrealistic but instead, removing words/phrase like “I can’t”, “it’s impossible”, “I am not good enough”, etc. Move to positive words like “I can”, “I will”, “I have what it takes” and other affirming phrases.
3. Are You Being Reasonable With Your Goal Setting?
The worst thing you can do in anything is set expectations that are long-term goals vs. expectations that should be short-term goals. If you set out to lose 50lbs, there is a difference in the expectations if this is a 2-month goal versus a 6-month goal. Setting the goal of trying to accomplish this in 2 months is possible, however the means and discipline necessary would require extremely drastic and possible unreasonable changes in your life making the goal very difficult to attain. It is a set up for failure and when you don’t achieve the goal you get frustrated and quit. On the other hand, a 6-month plan is more ideal and more likely to result in success.
4. Create Accountability.
I know you hear this over and over again. However, it is important to declare your intentions to family, friends and loved ones. With the use of social media, failure or public disgrace can spread quickly and this serves as a type of consequence for you. If this is not enough, add an additional consequence that someone else can impose. One must also take into account that everyone does not react the same to punishment or negative reinforcement. For those who require a reward-based motivation or positive reinforcement, pick something that you really want like a new car, vacation, furniture or jewelry and use this as your motivation to reach your ultimate goal, rewarding yourself with smaller things along the way.
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